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Bleeding KneeMy kids have fallen down- many times.  In fact it happened recently.  Noah fell and scraped up his elbow pretty badly.  When we were trying to bandage it up he said, “IT BURNS LIKE LAVA!”  Ah to have the mind of a six year old again…

My kids have made mistakes.  They have written on walls, gotten pen on the couch, spilled milk, disobeyed, talked back, and been obstinate.  They have found that there is a whole lot of life that they want to explore and boundaries that they want to push.

These are the times as parents that are incredibly hard, right?  When your kid is in pain, pain so bad that it can only be likened to “burning like fire”, you want to take that away for them.  You wish that you could bear the pain on their behalf so that they didn’t have to feel it.  When I watch one of my kids fall, my whole body cringes, not because I am hurting, but because I know that they will be.

It is hard as a parent to watch and experience your children disobey, make poor decisions, and mistakes.  If you don’t believe me ask any parent of a teenager, they will tell you it is hard!

These are the moments when parenting is tough.

It is in these moments that parents have to step in and show their children that their is a better way.  There is a safer way to get from one side of the pool to the other than by running.  There is a reason why we don’t color with markers on the couch.  There is a reason why we eat over our plates.  All of this is for a reason.

When our children disobey, as parents we have to have the difficult discussion about why obedience is important.  We have to discuss why attitude is everything.  We have to talk about forgiveness.  We must teach our kids how to say sorry.  All of these things are important to teach lovingly and graciously to our children.

The Prophet Ezekiel
The Prophet Ezekiel by Michaelangelo

In the book of Ezekiel, God speaks through the prophet Ezekiel and tells his people that they haven’t been shepherding, or taking care of His people.  God reveals the condition of the shepherds heart as well as the condition of the flock.  Neither one is doing very well.

You eat the fat and clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat sheep without feeding the flock. Those who are sickly you have not strengthened, the disease you have not healed, the broken you have not bound up, the scattered you have not brought back, nor have you sought for the lost; but with force and with severity you have dominated them.  They were scattered for lack of a shepherd, and they became food for every beast of the field and were scattered.

~Ezekiel 34:3-5

God speaks through Ezekiel and is trying to get the attention of those who are taking care of God’s flock, or God’s people.  This passage is challenging to me both as a parent and as a pastor.  It makes me ask the question, am I caring for the people that God has entrusted to me?

What about you? I don’t care if you are a pastor, or a parent.  A father, or a friend.  Are you lovingly guiding and caring for those that God has placed in your life?  How do you help your kids, friends, etc… know that you care?

~Peter

In a recent parent teacher conference Noah’s teacher said that she has never had a student care about others like Noah does. WOW, right? I mean as a parent I am so proud of him.  I was expecting to hear that my kid was the weird kid that stands in front of the urinal with his pants at his ankles.  AWKWARD.  But no!  Instead she surprises us with great stuff!  Then, I get this video from Tiffany today.  This just put me over the edge.  So, indulge me for a minute.

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I could not be more proud of Noah, not because he wants to follow in my footsteps, but because God is developing a really soft spot in his heart for people! I LOVE THIS about him.  This reminds me to keep praying for each one of my kids.  I love them, and believe that God has something really special in store for each of them.

What are you praying about for your kids?  

~Peter

As many of you know, my life is in the midst of a major transition.  Recently I have resigned from my position as youth pastor at First Baptist Church in Doylestown and I have accepted an associate pastor position at Liquid Church in Morristown NJ.  My life meets the pre-req’s for the term transitional to apply.  I am living in one state, and working in another.  Our front yard is decorated with a large “for sale” sign.  The attic is ready to explode with the amount of boxes that are shoved up in there.

Our life is in the midst of a transition.

Transitions are crazy right?  If you’ve been through one, then you know what I am talking about.  Some of you may have moved, changed jobs, or added children to your family–all of these things create a massive disruption to your version of normal.  I was on the phone this morning and I said, “I can’t wait to get back to a version of normal”.  See, normal is relative.  Right now is anything but normal.  That is okay–because it is a time of transition.  Right now, I can say to myself, NORMAL WILL RETURN!

But, during this time of transition, life is crazy!  I am driving more now than I have ever driven before.  I am learning a whole new language, a new organization, and a new work culture.  I am farther from home more often than ever before.  Things do not feel normal.

In the midst of this transition there are several things that are constant.  I am still a dad to my three kids, and I am still a husband.  This has not changed, nor will it ever change.  The hard part is trying to figure out how to balance being the best daddy to these three precious children and being the best husband to my wife all while living in the midst of crazy amounts of commotion.

Daddy and KidsStarting last week our church kicked off a Wednesday night worship and prayer service as a part of our Revive Series.  It will run up until the week before Easter.  The idea is that on Wednesday we would fast and pray and end our day with corporate prayer and worship.  (Aussie Dave blogged about it here.)  Last week was my first week at Liquid, and my first week participating in the church wide fast.   We were challenged by Pastor Tim to pray about what we should fast and bring before God.  I knew quickly what I was fasting for.  It was clear, and obvious.  I was to be fasting for my wife and my kids.  I specifically was asking God to watch over and protect my family.  I was asking God to meet their needs since I couldn’t.  Simply put, it was me asking God to do what I couldn’t.

That Wednesday afternoon I had to walk to the store to get some ice for the evening, and I was praying for Grace, my 5 year old.  She was having a particularly hard day emotionally.  I was on my way back from the 7-11, awkwardly carrying three bags of ice when I noticed several common sparrows flitting about on the ground ahead of me.  I paused to watch them for just a few brief moments and then I noticed what they were doing.

Birds on the SidewalkThe sparrows were dancing around a small puddle that had formed in the low area of the sidewalk, and they were drinking from this pool.  I watched one sparrow in particular crane its neck forward in order to swallow up a small amount of water.  I was reminded in that moment how much God cared for these sparrows.  Those sparrows were being taken care of by God through that puddle. I thought of my daughter, Grace, and how much I wanted God to take care of her emotions.  I thought of my wife, Tiffany, and how much I wanted God to give her strength.  I thought of my son, Noah, and how much I wanted God to protect him and watch over him.  I thought of my 1 year old daughter, Leah, and how much I wanted her to know that her daddy loves her.

And then I thought of how much God takes care of these sparrows.  I was reminded of what Jesus says in Matthew 10:29-31,

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?  And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father.  But even the hairs of your head are all numbered.  Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.”

It was in that moment that God comforted me and reminded me that they are really his children, and He’s got it all under control.  Even when I don’t feel it!  Tiffany is His daughter whom He values more than I ever could.

It still feels crazy.  But I am thankful that God is a God who handles all of the transitions.

~Peter

What is the coolest journey that you have ever been on?  This journey could have taken you miles from your home, or it could have only moved you  few minutes from home.  The distance does not matter.  The journey does.

When I was a kid, one of my cherished family traditions was to spend thanksgiving day with my extended family and sleep at my aunts house that night.  This would make it so that all of my cousins could hang out the next day.  The day after thanksgiving never changed.  As sure as it was to be a Friday, we were certain about what we were doing.  We set out on a journey, an adventure.  All six of us would gather up food, provisions, and supplies for the journey that we were about to embark on.

We set off to play/build/create in the woods of a South Jersey farm.  We left from the house that sat at the front of the property and we journeyed to the back of the property.  Not a far destination at all, yet a significant one at that.

We are all grown up now, and it has been years since the last time the six of us plodded down the dirt pathway leading to our destination, yet it comes up from time to time in conversation.  Remember when we used to ______________________.  It was significant.  It was fun.  It was an experience, a journey.

As kids we would journey to the back of a farm every friday after Thanksgiving.  I’ve gone to places much farther than the back of the farm in the years since those adventures.  A journey can be near, or it can be far.  It can occur in a day, or over the course of several years.  The distance, nor the time matter, the journey does.  I’ve been thinking, how do you journey well?

Hebrews 11 has encouraged me to journey well.  The last verses of chapter 10 are significant to the reading of chapter 11.  The writer of Hebrews writes,

Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.  For you have need of endurance so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.  For yet in a very little while, He who is coming will come, and will not delay.  But my righteous one shall live by Faith.  And if He shrinks Back, My soul has no pleasure in Him.” Hebrews 10:35-39

Tiffany and I are about to head out on a new journey.  Along the way I expect that there will be adventures, set backs, and mountain top experiences all mixed together.  There will be times when a journey looks crazy scary.  It may be ridiculous at the outset.  I’d encourage you to read Hebrews chapter 11.  There are some people in there who journeyed well, and did some incredibly crazy stuff along the way(And hey, be encouraged, Samson made it in that list.)

What are some things that you have found that have helped you journey well?

I’d love to hear your thoughts/insights.

~Peter

A little bit ago I blogged about Noah’s first day of school, and how grown up that little man is getting.  Yesterday Tiffany caught some really funny stuff on video.  Here is the background story:  Noah has a great teacher in school, as evidenced by this video.  He is learning a ton of things.  He loves music, he loves gym, he loves creative times, and all of the other activities that happen at school.  He came home from school yesterday and wanted to “Teach” his little sister Grace all of the things that he has learned.  Make sure and pay attention to Grace throughout the movie too.  She is just as funny if not funnier!

Man they are going to love me when they get older!  This stuff is priceless!

~Peter

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So, I didn’t pull a Michael Jordan and come out of retirement only to retire just a year later.  I know it’s been about a week and a half since my last post, but in that last week and a half my family and I have tried to spend some very specific time of unplugging and resting.  We are so blessed to be given some time down at the Jersey Shore and laugh, swim, crab, fish, sleep, refresh, and unplug as a family.  So we have been gone for the last week….  At first I felt bad that I hadn’t set up any posts to go live while I was gone, and then I just forgot about it.  Intentionally.

Refreshment is an integral part of any persons life.  However it is even more crucial for groups of people to do the same thing.  Think about  it… It’s hard enough to find times of refreshment for your own schedule.  Now try and schedule that with 4 peoples schedules.  Fortunately for us our kids schedules don’t run our life yet!

What do you do for refreshment?  Do you have any habits/practices/disciplines that you have built into your life to make sure that you have significant times of refreshment throughout your life? Let’s hear it.

Here are some of the pictures from our week together!  We had a blast!

~Peter

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So the other night, I came home from Youth Group, just absolutely exhausted and worn out, and maybe even a little discouraged (not about YG) and all of a sudden Tiffany says, you’ve got to come in here and see this.  So I rushed over cause you never know how long the “This” will last before you miss it.  And I racing into my son Noah’s room to see this:

Noah stuffed with animals...Noah sleeping with stuffed animalsstuffed animalsYou’ll notice that the animals are stuffed in his shirt and they are holding him super close!  In that last picture you can even see the panda’s head poking out of the top of his shirt.  It’s moments like these that I would love to just know what he was thinking… Either way it brightened my day to say the least!

It made me think… What moments have you had lately that have brightened your day?  When was the last time someone said, “Come here, you’ve got to see this…”

I thank God for moments like that… Let’s make sure we are going slow enough to appreciate these moments!

~Peter

Growing up, I will never forget some of our family’s Christmas traditions.  Every year we would do certain things the same as the year before that.  For instance without fail I would get in trouble every christmas eve day.  I would be so wired up and ready for the big day that I would do something stupid and find myself causing stress in someone else’s life.  That was one of the unspoken Christmas traditions.  There were tons of other ones which we practiced every year faithfully.  One of them was setting up our families manger scene.  This is something that has become close to my heart.  I look back on those times with great memories.  As a family we would “open” up the manger scene and set each piece in it’s place.  I say open it up because each piece was carefully wrapped in tissue paper.  It was a grab bag of sorts.  You never knew which piece you were going to get.  However secretly inside, I always wanted to be the guy who unraveled the tissue and found a sweet little baby Jesus.  Anyway, once you unraveled your piece we would describe what part in the story the piece played.  This whole process got more and more theological as three of the four siblings went off to Bible College.  While I was in high school I can remembering coming up with different analogies and stories describing why the “ten thousand lambs” (It seemed like there were that many anyhow…) were at the manger scene, “The Lion and the Lamb”, “The sacrificial Lamb”, “Jesus was the good shepherd”, “All we like sheep have gone astray”, as I write this now, I am chuckling thinking about my sister Heather coming up with new and Biblical explanations of those little lambs.  Good times…  After the manger was all set up, my dad would open up his Bible, and the little ribbon would lay neatly open to Luke, and we would reread the gospel story once again.  What a genius’ my mom and dad were…  What a tradition.  

The other day I realized that without even thinking we began doing something very similar with our kids.  The manger scene is quite different, and the way it was done was also different, but the idea remains the same.  I suppose you can say that the tradition will be carried on in my house.  Here are some pictures of the “Opening of the manger scene” 2008.  

Here we are with my kids being 3 and almost 2 and I’m so excited to see what explanations they come up with when the donkey pops up, what do they do with that donkey.  I can’t wait to see where they theologically place the wisemen, or magi… or hmm… what were they?  I am looking forward to hearing if the angels sang or said, “Glory to God in the Highest”…  AH!  It’s going to be great… Did the magi/kings ride camels or horses…  (Thank you hallmark for all of your inaccurate images… but that’s another post…) We had a great time explaining the story of God, Jesus, coming to earth.  

What traditions do you have?

Merry Christmas!!!

~Peter