relationshipsNobody ever sets out in a relationship and says, “Man, I would really like for this relationship to be just mediocre at best!  If we could simply coexist that would be awesome.  So long as she doesn’t try to kill me while I’m sleeping, I’ll be a happy man.”

NO WAY!

Relationships start out with all the best intentions, and all the best motives.  The dreams about where the relationship will go are endless and huge!  Significant amount of time is spent on the phone discussing what color the front door of your dream house should be, will their be a picket fence in the front yard, and what color will the granite be on the kitchen countertops?  The sad part is that somewhere along the way the conversation slips away from dreaming together and more towards how do we exist together?

If you want your love to grow and flourish do something about it.  That is so important that I need to say it again–DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

To many people just say that they love someone, but not enough people act like they love someone.  If our words are not backed by our actions, then they are hollow and meaningless utterances.  Check out what 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 says,

If I speak with the tongues of men and angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

The Apostle Paul is writing that passage and saying if you do not ACT in love you are nothing!  He goes on to give a list 15 things that love is or isn’t to help define and refine our understanding of love.  What he doesn’t give us are 15 different ways to say I love you.  He is giving us a guideline to show us HOW to love people.

We need less people just saying I love you and more people showing they love you.

If we went to a job interview today and said to our potential boss, “I’m a really hard worker”.  The most natural thing to expect them to say is, “show me”.  Our bosses are not interested in hearing what we say we can do, they are interested in seeing what we say we can do.  Relationships are no different!  Your spouse wants to see you love them as much or more than they want to hear you say you love them.  It comes down to the old saying, actions speak louder than words.  Don’t just say you love them show you love them!

Next time before you say I love you, think, have you shown that you love them too?  What’s one thing you need to do today to show your love? 

~Peter